Participants: Nick Evenson (Host), Dr. James Marcum
Series Code: UP
Program Code: UP000077B
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00:01 Welcome back! Thank you for staying with us.
00:07 On today's program, we're talking about 00:08 the importance of relationships, 00:10 and even relationships with your pets, right Dr. Marcum? 00:12 Yes, relationships are important, 00:14 and I think I've tried to build a little framework 00:17 that says relationships can treat disease 00:19 and prevent disease because it develops love. 00:22 Especially the relationship we have with our Heavenly Father 00:25 who teaches us how to love. 00:27 And in the world we see, and a lot of disease I see is 00:31 from chronic stressors. Right 00:33 And chronic stressors are not good for the system, 00:36 and we know that people that love more and have a 00:39 relationship with God have less stressors. 00:40 It's now scientifically proven. 00:42 So that relationship is like a pill to the body. Sure 00:46 A relationship with God is the best, 00:49 but then other people - we can have relationships with 00:51 animals and plants we've talked about. 00:53 We have a relationship, Nick, so maybe it's like a pill, 00:56 hopefully it's good and getting better. That's right! 00:58 We also have a relationship with people that watch 01:00 our TV programs and hopefully 01:02 you feel like you have a relationship with us, 01:05 and, of course, we would invite 01:06 you if you want a further relationship... 01:07 They can go to our website: heartwiseministries.org 01:10 We can pray for each other. 01:12 We can help answer each other's questions. 01:14 We can help encourage each other to have a better relationship 01:17 with our Ultimate Physician. Certainly 01:19 That's why the name of this program is 01:21 "The Ultimate Prescription" and it's not about a pill. 01:24 It's about a relationship. 01:26 Now how many medical programs you know out there 01:28 that point people to God as the ultimate treatment 01:32 for every condition? 01:33 Not many, I'm sure. Not that many and people 01:36 occasionally make fun of me a little bit, you know, 01:38 "Why do you do this?" Because it's important. 01:41 It's important, it's important that people know 01:43 where the power to heal comes from. That's right. 01:46 Doctors treat symptoms and that's why we're a little bit 01:48 off-base on today's program by modern medical standards, 01:52 but I think by heavenly standards, 01:54 I would like to think that everyone up there, 01:56 the angels are going, "Yeah, these guys are 01:58 headed in the right direction, they might not have gotten it 02:00 perfect, but at least they're acknowledging, 02:02 heading in the right direction of a way to change 02:05 the chemistry and that's through relationships." 02:06 Now, we've had a lot of people call in and what if other 02:10 people have questions, what should they do? 02:11 If you have a question, please visit our website at: 02:14 heartwiseministries.org 02:15 and on the front page, you'll find the 02:17 "Ask the Doctor" link and you'll click on that 02:19 and you can submit your question. 02:20 You can also pray for others on our prayer form 02:23 and list your prayer request there... 02:24 And we'd love to build a relationship with you today. 02:27 We're going to go ahead and start with some questions now 02:29 from the website and we have a lady who lives in New Hampshire 02:32 and enjoys 3ABN and she says, "I am lonely since my husband 02:36 has passed away. 02:37 My doctor thinks I may have depression, 02:39 and he wants to start me on a pill, what can I do?" 02:42 I would advise not to take the pill right away, okay? 02:45 Talk to your doctor about other ways that might help depression. 02:50 And, I'm so glad she watches 3ABN because, you know, 02:53 3ABN also in some ways that people, you know, they can't 02:56 get out, they can't move... they feel like they're involved, 02:58 they feel like they have a relationship and that 03:00 relationship gives you some ability 03:02 to have healing and feel better. That's right 03:04 So I would work on developing 03:08 relationships - maybe this person might benefit 03:10 from a pet, an exercise program, especially pay attention 03:15 to whether you might be vitamin D deficient. 03:18 Vitamin D deficiency can cause serotonin to go down 03:21 which can increase depression. 03:24 Bowel function is also very important. 03:26 Make sure you have good healthy bowel functions. 03:29 Make sure a probiotic might be helpful. 03:32 Make sure you have lots of fiber, lower the toxins in you. 03:36 Try to develop some relationships. 03:37 Get some people to talk to about this. 03:40 It might be that you're depressed because you're lonely, 03:43 and you need something to love. 03:45 So try to get more love and service in your life. 03:48 Try to find other people to do things for and with, 03:51 maybe that might help you so you don't need to 03:53 necessarily take a pill. 03:54 Because think about it, you never had to take a pill 03:56 before you lost your husband, so maybe if we can make 04:00 some changes in our brain and in our body, 04:02 and in our relationships, maybe you can avoid that. 04:04 So I think that's where I would start, 04:06 then if that doesn't work, then you might 04:08 want to do plan B. 04:10 Now, Nick, a lot of doctors now don't have a lot of time 04:13 to spend with patients. Right 04:16 And I admit, I don't have the time - now I still practice 04:18 cardiology and I see 32 patients a day and I get 10 minutes 04:23 with an old patient and 20 minutes with a new. Right 04:27 And I don't have the time I need sometimes, 04:29 and that's why I do things like this, 04:31 but there are so many other places to look for information 04:35 out there and if your doctor doesn't have 04:38 enough time or is really busy, look for other alternatives 04:40 that could also give good information 04:42 that will help you find the answers. 04:44 You could be your best physician and now with the internet, 04:47 if you "Google" something, it's going to give you 04:49 lots of answers, but it might not be 04:52 the answers that are the best, but at least it will sort of 04:54 point you in a direction. Right 04:56 So it's probably good to consult your physician 04:58 with whatever you find on the web and, hopefully, 05:00 they'll point you in the right direction. 05:02 Nick, if you had a health question, 05:03 I know you have a son named "Hayden," 05:06 where would you get your information from? 05:09 Well I am a fan of the internet, 05:10 I would go there instantly, but then I'd probably run it 05:14 by my pediatrician and see what she says. 05:15 But do you believe everything on the internet? 05:17 Not everything - there's a lot 05:18 of good stuff out there, but a lot of bad stuff too. 05:20 But the relationship you have 05:21 with people you trust is important. That's right. 05:24 Okay and that's what I try to tell people. 05:27 Who can we trust more than our Creator? 05:30 He cares for us and wants to care for us 05:32 more than anything else, so who is going to be your 05:34 best doctor, who do you wan to go to first? 05:36 You want to go to that physician who is going to give you 05:39 the best answer - that loves you more than anything, 05:41 that you can come to day in and day out. 05:43 That's where you want to start in getting treatment 05:45 and healed - someone that you can trust, 05:47 that you can always depend on. 05:49 On earth, sometimes we don't have that, 05:50 but in that relationship, 05:52 we have something we can depend on. 05:54 So that lady in New Jersey, thank you for watching us, 05:57 and we hope you start to feel better, 05:58 and I hope that helps you a little bit. Yeah 06:00 We'll go to another viewer who asks: 06:02 "What is the best exercise for someone in a wheelchair, 06:05 who also is dealing with arthritis?" 06:08 And that's a very tough problem to have - is to have arthritis 06:11 where your joints hurt and you're in a wheelchair, 06:14 you can't move, but anything that you can do 06:16 that feels good, start doing that. 06:18 And it can be something simple like petting a cat. Okay 06:22 It could be moving your arms. 06:23 One of the things that I have in people 06:25 that have lots of arthritis, I encourage them to do 06:28 is just to deep breathe. 06:30 Just take a deep breath, hold it 3 seconds, 06:35 blow it out ever so slowly. 06:37 Now when you do that 10 times, 06:40 you exercise the lungs, you get better oxygen 06:43 to your muscles, you move your diaphragm 06:45 and other muscles and usually it doesn't hurt to breathe. 06:49 But any little things like that, you know, I have some people 06:51 that just practice moving their head back and forth, 06:54 looking around at things. 06:55 All these are little things that improve our muscles, 06:58 help our oxygen, but little things built over 07:00 time might help that a whole lot. 07:03 And sometimes, in people that have arthritis, 07:05 a little movement actually helps improve the arthritis. 07:09 So those are some tips that might help you 07:13 to get a little bit movement when you're in a 07:15 wheelchair or have lots of pain. 07:16 Now, I know that sometimes water, hydrotherapy is used 07:20 for people that have certain conditions, 07:22 is water aerobics maybe a good option for some people? Yes! 07:24 Yes, if they can get it... the problem I have with 07:26 water aerobics is - a lot of our older people that have these 07:30 problems can't get to a swimming pool so easily. Sure 07:34 But if they have it, I think it's a wonderful way to do that 07:37 is get into water aerobics, it's wonderful 07:39 if they can have access to a pool. 07:41 We've got another viewer who asks: 07:42 "I am a worrier and my doctor says I have an anxiety disorder, 07:47 I'm now 92 and the anxiety has been getting worse 07:50 over the past 2 years... what can I expect in the future?" 07:53 Well, you know, I take care of a lot of people that are 07:57 older, Nick, and it seems like people get more concerned about 08:02 about at least health issues, and sometimes we play them 08:06 over and over in our brains until a small snowball 08:11 becomes an avalanche sometimes. 08:13 So one of the things that I say to people is that sometimes 08:16 it's natural to be concerned, I don't like the word "worry," 08:18 I like the word "concerned." 08:20 And I refer them to the biblical techniques to be 08:24 "anxious about nothing" turn it over to God, 08:26 and recognize what's happening. 08:28 And instead of focusing so much on things that are 08:31 happening to you, try to focus on other things. 08:33 Try to focus on other people; other people that you can help. 08:37 You know, ways to do this, focus on relationships. 08:39 Relationships with God, relationships with your family, 08:42 relationships with other things. 08:44 Sometimes that will help in sort of turning down 08:46 the anxiety and, of course, you want to do things 08:49 in your body that don't promote worry and anxiety as well. 08:52 All the stressors that we keep doing, 08:54 some television programs can make people very anxious 08:57 that triggers ugly thoughts and things of that nature. 08:59 We want to try to avoid that. 09:01 Another thing that helps is sometimes this helps when you 09:05 go to a counselor, you know, someone to talk to. 09:07 It might be a family member even and tell them how you feel, 09:10 and sometimes just talking about it... 09:13 Saying, "No, this is not to worry about." 09:16 What I try to do in the office is - I use a lot of reassurance. 09:19 You're worried about this? "No, don't be worried about 09:21 that - don't be anxious about that. 09:23 You're not going to die, it's not going to hurt you. 09:25 This is something that you want to push out of your brain 09:27 because when you think about it, 09:28 it's going to make things worse 09:30 because it's going to make all the stress chemistry." 09:32 So I tell people, "Just throw it out of your brain, 09:35 you know, let it go into the sea - don't think about it. 09:37 If you think about it again, no - find 3 things 09:40 to be happy about; 2 things to be thankful about, 09:43 and one way to help someone else. 09:44 Do that first - before you let those anxious worry thoughts 09:48 get back in your brain and see if that doesn't help." 09:50 That sounds like some good advice. 09:52 You know, since we were talking a little bit earlier about pets, 09:55 I want to know what do you think is the best kind of pet 09:58 for our health? 09:59 The best pet for your health would probably be 10:03 an elephant. Really? 10:05 Don't you think? I have no idea! 10:07 Why would an elephant make a good pet? 10:09 Well, because an elephant, they have that big trunk, 10:13 and if you need a shower, they can squirt 10:15 you with a shower and you know, they eat very healthy. 10:20 Elephants do - they eat pretty much plants all the time. 10:23 They're sort of big and lovable and I think 10:25 an elephant would be the best pet. 10:27 Now, would it be the most practical pet? 10:29 I don't know! Probably not. 10:31 Wouldn't you like to have that big old trunk, you know, 10:33 just sort of rubbing your back there and that's why I think 10:38 it's going to be fun about heaven 10:39 to see all the different types of pets. 10:41 But I guess the most practical pet for me, 10:44 the most practical, pet is a dog, 10:45 but I don't think there's a good answer to that question 10:47 because some people bond with fish; 10:49 some people bond with cats; some people bond with turtles; 10:53 some people bond with elephants, 10:55 and some people bond with all sorts of different things. 10:57 So I don't think there's a best pet out there, 11:00 but I think the bottom line is, we want to have 11:02 something in our lives to love. Yeah 11:05 I think that's the key, to have something in your life to love. 11:08 And we've kind of focused on positive relationships 11:11 and how important that is, but what about 11:13 how damaging can it be when a relationship, you know, 11:15 say - even just with your dog, you have a dog that behaves 11:17 bad and causes you a lot of stress and it's maybe not the 11:21 best relationship - how do you deal with situations 11:24 with others in poor relationships? 11:26 That's a great question because bad relationships 11:29 on every level cause chemical changes. 11:32 Everything we put into our body does something 11:34 for the good or something for the bad. 11:37 So if we have bad relationships with an animal, 11:41 with a spouse, with our boss, with our God, 11:45 we have to fix those relationships. 11:48 When we fix those relationships, guess what? 11:51 Our chemistry starts to improve; 11:53 we lower the chance of having chronic stress which 11:56 eventually causes a symptom which causes to need 11:58 modern medicine. 12:00 Now how do we do that? 12:02 How do we fix relationships that are broken? 12:04 How do we do that? 12:05 Well, that's why I think the first place to start 12:08 is prayer and asking God to help. 12:10 Asking God for the skills and the people in your life 12:14 that can help you learn. 12:15 Go and read more, learn more 12:17 about how relationships should work. 12:19 A lot of people out there don't know how to have relationships. 12:22 I'm worried about this new generation, Nick. 12:24 They're texting and they're not talking as much. 12:27 They're not having the relationships and I'm worried 12:30 that they might not have the skills so when they get older 12:33 they might not have those relationships, so they might 12:35 have more problems with relationships that create 12:37 more stress, that create more symptoms and more disease, 12:41 more use of modern medicine. 12:43 And if we look at the way the world is going... 12:45 more heart attacks, more strokes, more mental 12:47 health problems, more not sleeping good, 12:50 4 billion pills - you can see this is what's happening. 12:54 So that really, the only solution we have 12:56 is that relationship we have with our Savior, our God 12:59 that can sort of fix these problems. 13:01 That's what we gotta get our young people... 13:03 How do we love them and not judge them, 13:05 moving back to health one step at a time. 13:08 How do we find programs to reach those people 13:10 and let them know how important relationships are. 13:14 Well the first place... one place to start is 13:16 meeting a need. Yep 13:17 If we meet the need and show them, you know, 13:20 we are the hands of God. That's right. 13:22 If we do act like God, if we can mirror Him, 13:26 if we can have that relationship, 13:27 then other people can see it and say, "Listen, 13:29 this is something that's healing not only for me and my family, 13:32 but for the entire world. Right! 13:34 I've noticed in my own life that when I'm involved in 13:37 service to other people - it kind of forces a relationship, 13:39 but if you're caring for someone, you learn about them, 13:42 and it causes you to have a benefit 13:44 in your own life when you're serving others. 13:45 Yeah, because you're loving them and your chemistry is changing. 13:47 And when you're not serving other people, 13:49 who are you serving? Yourself! 13:51 That damages and causes selfishness, 13:54 it turns on all the selfish chemistry... not so good! 13:56 So, you know, we may have some folks watching today 13:59 who, maybe for one reason or another, aren't real active 14:02 in their church anymore and they want to serve, 14:04 how could they help serve with Heartwise Ministries? 14:07 Yeah, and I have that a lot, I have taken care of a lot 14:09 people that want to help, that used to be active... 14:13 presidents and church ministers and head of departments, 14:18 and served other people their entire life, 14:20 but now because they're old, they can't do that. 14:22 Well, you know what? You can pray! 14:25 Everyone can pray that God will use them and show them how. 14:29 The things that can be accomplished through prayer 14:31 are enormous. 14:32 So I want to encourage everyone to pray, 14:33 specifically pray, that God will use them in service, 14:38 and if they can do that, God can accomplish more 14:40 through that prayer than we can do working on our own. 14:43 So this is a great place to start in people that 14:45 don't feel as useful as possible... 14:47 And everyone can talk to their friends and have as many 14:50 good positive relationships as they can. 14:52 Dr. Marcum, thank you for your thoughts on this subject. 14:54 And thank you for being part of our conversation at home today. 14:57 We want to invite you to stay with us as Dr. Marcum 14:59 leads out in prayer in just a moment. 15:06 Relationships - a way to change your chemistry for the good. 15:11 If you have a pet, if you have a relationship 15:14 with someone you love, if you have a relationship 15:16 with the Heavenly Father, these are all ways 15:18 to improve your chemistry to help 15:20 treat and prevent disease. Let's pray together... 15:22 Father God, There are some out there that 15:25 are seeking relationships. 15:27 We pray that You find these people, Father, 15:30 and help them find You and enter into a healing 15:33 relationship, Father. 15:34 Please, thank you for each 15:37 and every one that You have watching this 15:40 program that you can help today. 15:41 Thank You for giving us the opportunity to serve You 15:44 is our prayer... Amen 15:46 I'm so glad you joined us today on "The Ultimate Prescription" 15:50 I want to invite you if you want to continue this relationship, 15:53 go to our website that is: 15:54 heartwiseministries.org and every week 15:57 come to "The Ultimate Prescription" to watch. 15:59 I'm Dr. James Marcum wishing you the best of health. |
Revised 2016-10-13