Participants: Brittany Hill-Morales (Host), Dajanae Anderson, Keith Hackle, Jr
Series Code: PC
Program Code: PC000126A
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00:01 The following program discusses sensitive issues.
00:03 Parents are cautioned that some material 00:05 may be too candid for younger children. 00:41 Welcome to Pure Choices. 00:42 My name is Brittany Hill-Morales. 00:43 And I am today's host. 00:45 We have a very interesting topic 00:48 that we're discussing today 00:49 It is teenage sexuality, our new reality. 00:54 So before we jump into the discussion, let's pray. 00:58 Dear most heavenly Father, dear Lord, 01:00 you are Savior, our friend, and so much more. 01:03 As we are about to have a discussion 01:04 on teenage sexuality, 01:06 I pray that You'll be with us here 01:07 as we're having the discussion 01:09 and also with the viewers at home. 01:10 We love you so much in Jesus' name, amen. 01:13 Amen. Amen. 01:14 So for today's program, we have two wonderful guests. 01:18 They're good friends of mine. We have Mrs. Dajanae Anderson. 01:22 She's a graduate student in Texas. 01:24 And we also have Pastor Keith Hackle from Iowa. 01:29 So teenage sexuality. 01:31 Oh, my! Oh, my! 01:33 That's a big one. 01:34 It is. It's a big one. 01:36 Every time we think about teenagers, 01:40 there's always this nerve reckoning 01:46 thing that happens. 01:47 Doesn't matter if they're in the church, 01:49 not in the church, 01:50 it's just in the community, 01:52 people here are teenagers should think about our youth, 01:54 and they think trouble. 01:56 Keith, you are a father of almost two teenagers. 02:00 True, true. 02:01 One preteen and one a teen, yes. 02:03 Yes, yes, yes. 02:05 And I bet every time you say you have two teenagers, 02:07 people say, we're praying for you. 02:09 All the time. 02:10 Thank you so much. Thank you so much. 02:13 People have this philosophy about teenagers. 02:16 They think that they are hormone driven. 02:19 They do not either aren't responsible. 02:22 They are the ones that have all the sexual activity. 02:26 They're getting pregnant, having abortions, 02:27 all this different stuff. 02:29 Our teenagers just are mess. 02:31 That's always the initial philosophy. 02:34 What do you guys think as church leaders, 02:36 youth mentors about how people view teenagers? 02:40 I think that it's, there are partial truths. 02:44 Those are partial truths 02:45 because the reality is that 02:47 it is during your teen years 02:49 that you begin to go through puberty 02:51 and your hormones are not balanced yet, 02:55 they're new in how you respond to different interactions, 03:01 change from when you were 03:04 in elementary school to being a teenager. 03:08 And so, and then within society, 03:11 whether that's in the church or outside of the church 03:13 like you're saying, there are a lot of interaction. 03:18 That's when you begin to think about sexuality 03:21 is within those teenage years. 03:25 So I think there's some truth to it 03:26 but it's not to say 03:27 that all teenagers are sexually active. 03:30 That's true. 03:32 Yeah, and it is a difficult situation 03:34 you have, parents, right? 03:37 And hopefully, you're in an environment 03:39 where your parents... 03:40 You've seen your mommy, your dad hug before you, 03:42 you've seen your mommy and dad kiss before 03:44 and so when you're younger, 03:45 it's like, uh, that's grose, right? 03:47 And now you're going through like you said, 03:49 these emotional changes, 03:51 and now you're starting to feel certain ways, 03:53 and maybe even think certain things, 03:56 and you begin to wonder what's going on with me. 03:59 You begin to wonder why is this happening to me. 04:01 And so the children do ultimately 04:03 become more acquisitive during the teenage years 04:06 and sometimes even more experimental 04:08 into what that, as they're trying to figure out 04:11 what's going on with their self. 04:12 Right. 04:14 And I think that things on TV, 04:15 I was young which wasn't that long ago, 04:18 like when I was younger, 04:19 there are certain things that... 04:21 There are certain commercials 04:22 that would not even play on television 04:26 unless it was after 10 o'clock, 10 PM, 04:29 then you might get the raunchy kind of commercials, 04:32 sexualized commercials 04:34 and you're trying to sell me deodorant. 04:36 So but nowadays, that's during... 04:38 You're going to see that at 1 o'clock in the afternoon 04:41 or 4 o'clock in the afternoon 04:42 when children are getting out of school, 04:45 whether that's high school students 04:46 or elementary students. 04:48 And so sexuality 04:50 has become more prevalent in our society. 04:54 And I think that does... 04:56 It doesn't just deal with the teens, 04:58 but I think the teens also get more curious 05:00 sometimes at earlier ages 05:03 because of what goes in on a society. 05:05 That's true, that's true. 05:07 Well, there are some statistics that I was able to get 05:11 from the US Department of Health and CDC. 05:13 They said, "In 1991, 05:15 54.1% of high school students reported 05:18 that they were sexually active compared in 2013 05:23 which was somewhat a few years ago, 05:26 46.8% of high school students. 05:29 That's less. 05:30 It's about maybe almost close to 10%, 05:33 maybe 8 to 10% less 05:34 students are engaging in sexual activity. 05:37 And then when you get to 05:38 teenage births or teenage pregnancy, 05:42 they were saying that between 2011 and 2012, 05:46 it dropped by 6%. 05:48 And then between 2012 and 2013 it dropped by additional 10%. 05:53 So teenagers are not, you know, having babies 05:57 as often as people are assuming about them, 06:01 but there is still a problem. 06:03 Yes. 06:05 For sexually transmitted diseases 06:07 for students that actually are engaging in sexuality 06:10 and it's not just only amongst high school students, 06:13 this is amongst the entire spectrum 06:16 for the United States. 06:18 Thirty percent of youth 06:22 have new chlamydia cases, 06:25 25 % new gonorrhea cases, 06:30 21%, it's HIV. 06:33 So it's not like we're out of the clear, 06:37 kids are not having sex no more, 06:39 it's great, it's awesome, there are still other problems. 06:43 Is there anything else maybe might have caused 06:45 the decrease in the downtrend? 06:48 One thing that comes to my mind is, 06:51 from within my family, right, 06:54 my mother had me at a young age 06:55 when she was in her teen, late teens. 06:59 And so I grew up and I think that, 07:02 that generation of my parents kind of had children young, 07:08 but now, but I, so I grew up with don't have children young 07:11 wait until you're older. 07:13 And so I think that may play a part 07:16 into why more young people are waiting 07:20 because they're told. 07:22 They see the effects of what happened 07:25 when you had a child young 07:27 because you were engaged in sexual activity. 07:29 So that's my one opinion that I have. 07:32 Yeah, I agree with you. 07:34 And another side of that is 07:37 from what I've learned from our young people 07:39 is that they begin not going all the way, right, 07:42 but they may partake in some other things 07:44 that still allow them to be considered. 07:47 When they get married, they can still say, 07:49 "I'm a virgin," right? 07:50 Now they may have experience in other areas 07:53 and that may be why we see 07:55 some of the diseases are still going up. 07:59 But maybe they're individuals 08:00 who are getting pregnant may be going down 08:03 or the full out sexual exposure is going down. 08:08 And so there's a lot of, even with the numbers, 08:11 a lot of areas in which we still need to make sure 08:13 we can say, "Yes, we've done better 08:15 but we're not all the way there." 08:17 And I'm so glad you said that. 08:18 There still needs to be some conversation 08:19 and there still needs to be some education. 08:22 And there still needs to be some concern 08:24 as it relates to our children. 08:26 Right, because with that statistic, 08:28 I would, as you said, 08:30 you know, there were mentors and church leaders, 08:34 things like that so I have a lot of interaction 08:36 with young adults. 08:38 And they are very open with me 08:41 about what it is that they're engaged in. 08:43 And so some of the young adults 08:44 that I know that are not married, 08:46 they are virgins but there are different, 08:49 there is oral sex that they participate in, 08:52 there is masturbation and pornography 08:54 that they participate in. 08:56 And some young people do not consider 08:58 that sexual activity because I'm not involved. 09:02 When it comes down to masturbation, 09:03 I'm not involved with somebody else. 09:06 And so then my question to this statistic would be, 09:11 when the question was asked, 09:13 does that include the watching of pornography 09:16 because as far as I know, pornographic films 09:19 and pornographic viewers have... 09:22 the numbers have increased since, let's say, 1991. 09:28 That's true. 09:29 So that would be what I would say about it. 09:33 I don't know if there is another question 09:35 about that particular... 09:37 I think we're on the same page 09:38 as in even though the statistics are positive 09:41 and you're like, "Yes. 09:42 Great. Awesome." 09:44 There're other factors that might be the reason why. 09:46 Even for lower numbers 09:49 for teen birth and teen pregnancy. 09:52 Most people think, teenagers, they're so ready to go, 09:55 most of them on birth control 09:56 or they are practicing a lot safer sex. 09:59 So for those who are practicing, 10:01 they're making sure they're taking their pill, 10:03 they're doing whatever they need to do, 10:05 making sure they're using condoms 10:07 so they don't have to have what their parents had, 10:10 you know, raising a young child and different stuff like that. 10:13 Right and so there's... 10:15 Go ahead. 10:18 I think there's this thing in, 10:20 especially within Christianity and outside of Christianity 10:23 as well where there is, "I can engage in sex, 10:27 but I'm going to cover myself 10:29 in such a way that there's no result, 10:31 there's no fruit that gives evidence 10:33 that I've engaged in sex." 10:35 So those things that you just named, 10:37 even though the numbers are lower, 10:39 they're still almost half. 10:41 And so with almost half of the population of young people, 10:45 "Okay, like you said, I'm having sex 10:47 but I'm using a condom or I'm using birth control, 10:51 and so no one knows." 10:54 So I think that's where within Christianity we say, 10:59 it's not just don't produce the fruit of sexuality, 11:03 but what are the effects to the young teenage mind 11:07 and spirituality that takes place 11:10 after engaging in premarital sex. 11:12 That's a good point and we see our children. 11:15 And this is, you mentioned Christianity and as a pastor, 11:19 there's some things that we promote, right. 11:21 There's some things that we say that you shouldn't do 11:24 and they're right but at the same time 11:26 we have to be careful 11:28 that we're not teaching our children to get to a point 11:31 where they're able to hide what they're doing, right, 11:33 because there's a lot of emotional stress 11:35 that comes along with it, 11:37 there's a lot of frustrations that come up. 11:39 Just everything comes along with, 11:41 even if you don't go all the way, 11:43 you've opened yourself up in one way 11:45 or another to this individual. 11:47 And you trust this person, you want maybe a relationship 11:50 and it hurts when that person dumps you 11:53 or no longer wants to be involved with you. 11:55 It hurts when you see pictures of yourself on Facebook, 11:57 on Instagram. 11:59 It hurts when you're getting tweeted about. 12:00 And so even though they may not be getting pregnant, 12:03 there's still an emotional attachment to this thing 12:07 that is messing our children up. 12:09 And we've got to be cautious of how we even present it. 12:12 We can say, "Hey, don't go this far." 12:15 Do exactly what we tell them to 12:17 and still get messed up so we have to be careful. 12:19 Yeah, that's true. 12:21 So the next question is, 12:24 what can teenagers do to have this abstinence 12:27 where they're not only voiding from having sex, 12:31 or as we say, going all the way 12:33 but not involving in stuff like sexting, 12:35 and pornography, and all this different stuff? 12:37 And what can parents do to support this? 12:40 That's a good question. 12:42 What I've done with my son, 12:44 my son is 14 now and he has a girlfriend. 12:49 And she's... 12:51 It was difficult at first, just the idea of my son dating. 12:55 And I understand that whatever door open for him, 12:57 my daughter's coming behind it, 12:59 she's watching and she's going to be like, 13:00 "Hey, he was this old 13:01 when he got into his first relationship." 13:03 But as a parent, me and my wife talked about this, 13:05 we prayed about it. 13:07 And what I said, you know, 13:08 what we don't want to do is get to a point 13:10 where he begins sneaking behind our backs to do things. 13:13 So what we've done is we've... 13:14 I talked to the other parents. 13:16 We sat down, we talked about this thing. 13:17 We prayed about it, we said, 13:18 "Hey, these kids, they're interested in each other, 13:20 so let's do a supervised relationship," 13:23 where we allow them the opportunity 13:25 to be in each other's space to conversate with each other. 13:29 And that allows them to know that we're giving them a trust, 13:32 right, but the young lady's dad said, 13:35 "Listen, this is what I'm expecting. 13:36 There are three rules you can't go into any other place. 13:39 I don't want any touchy feely." 13:40 He gave him a list of things that he had to do. 13:43 Another component was my son had to go and ask this guy, 13:46 "Could he date his daughter 13:48 before he got into that relationship?" 13:50 And so it was tough for him at first. 13:52 He's like, "Well, what am I going to say?" 13:53 He had to put the words together and things like that. 13:56 And I was kind of nudging him 13:58 but I wanted him to know that this thing here, 14:00 this relationship, first of all, 14:02 you're entering into a relationship with someone 14:05 and you want to take their emotion seriously, right? 14:07 And I want you to respect her parents and respect her. 14:11 And I want them to know that you're a stand up guy. 14:14 And there's just certain things from our family 14:16 that you're not going to do. 14:18 This isn't just about you, 14:19 this is about you're representing a name. 14:21 This is more than just yourself. 14:22 And so, as parents, 14:24 what I think what we need to do is understand 14:26 that at a certain age, 14:28 our children are thinking things, 14:29 they're wondering things, they're feeling certain ways. 14:32 And if we just tell them to stop feeling that way, 14:34 what they're going to do is 14:35 they're going to take it to another level. 14:36 Right. 14:38 And so if we let them know this is okay, 14:40 it's okay for you to feel this way. 14:41 Now let me show you how to control 14:44 how you feel by providing for you parameters, 14:48 save a safe space then it allows them to, 14:52 I believe, to operate under the guidelines 14:55 that God has given us 14:56 and not sneak around and do things, 14:57 and allow for the adversary to come in 14:59 and start planning these seeds 15:01 that we don't want them to have. 15:03 You have so much of moral space. 15:06 I know that because I wanted to add something 15:07 to what you're saying. 15:09 I think the number one thing is you have to know your child. 15:13 Each child is different, as you're saying, 15:15 your daughter, she's going to think like that. 15:17 "He could do it, I'm her little girl" 15:19 For her it's 30-35. 15:21 I know I'm little girl 15:22 but my brother did this so and so." 15:24 You have to know your child and know their timing. 15:27 And you have to have the conversation. 15:29 You converse with not only the parents 15:33 but you sat down with the son, 15:34 and I believe her parents sat down with her, 15:36 and they had the conversation. 15:38 Yes. 15:39 And I think that is partially... 15:42 Not partially, but I think that is mainly 15:43 the most challenging element for parents. 15:48 I didn't really have the conversation. 15:49 Right. 15:51 I'm not sure if you had the conversation, Dajanae. 15:53 I'm not sure, Keith, 15:54 if your mommy or daddy sat you down 15:56 and had the conversation. 15:58 But when you didn't have the conversation 16:00 with your parents, you look at your children, 16:03 and I know I want the best for my little girl, 16:05 she's only, you know, nine months. 16:07 I'm not trying to think about when she gets to teenage, 16:10 please Lord, save us. 16:12 But we have to have the conversation. 16:16 And I love that you had the conversation. 16:18 And they're like different things 16:19 just for parents out there 16:21 to have different ideas of what to talk about. 16:23 Talk about the bodily changes, you have to do it. 16:26 If you don't know there are wonderful books like, 16:31 I'll say have resources, that's what I want to say, 16:34 have resources of where you can get 16:36 quality Christian information, 16:39 information that's not based on some sort of crazy ideology 16:44 but solid information to be able to say, "Okay, 16:46 this is what's happening in your body right now, 16:48 and don't say it in a weird manner." 16:50 I know it's hard 16:51 because our kids think everything we say is weird. 16:53 Right. 16:55 Have the conversation about bodily changes, 16:56 about sexual intercourse. 16:58 I believe some parents feel... 17:00 I guess maybe that's how my mom might have felt was, 17:03 if she talked about sex with me, 17:05 maybe I would want to have sex. 17:07 And I've kind of heard parents kind of say that. 17:09 But if I tell them that it's good, 17:11 they're going to want to do it because it's good. 17:13 If I'm going to say that it's bad, 17:15 and they're going to not want to do it, 17:17 then they're afraid of... 17:18 No, that's a terrible idea. 17:20 That's a terrible idea. 17:23 Viewers, that's a terrible idea because in today's... 17:28 Kids at a younger age 17:30 are getting more information about sex. 17:33 And so, you can live in a fantasy world 17:36 if you want to as a parent, 17:38 but I recommend that you not do so 17:40 because our children know about sex. 17:43 I remember I was born in '92, right, so I'm 24 years old. 17:47 I was born in '92. 17:48 And I remember then the kids that I went to school 17:53 were the first people to tell me about sex. 17:56 In elementary school like first grade, I remember. 18:01 So that, it's unwise, it's very unwise 18:06 to not have the discussion with your children about sex 18:10 because something that you can do, 18:11 and I don't recommend that you do is stop your children 18:14 from interacting with other children 18:17 who have been informed either in a proper way 18:20 or an improper way. 18:22 And so like my mentality, don't have children yet, 18:25 but I have two younger siblings and you know as the oldest, 18:27 they say the oldest girl sometimes, 18:29 you know, parent, it's kind of like the third parent. 18:32 And so I as an older sibling, 18:35 I talk to my siblings about sexuality. 18:38 I talk to my sibling, I told my little, 18:40 "Oh, your voice is getting deep. 18:41 Okay, so let's have this conversation." 18:44 You know, I talk to my younger sister, 18:46 who's 18 now about sex and different things, 18:51 and I'm from California, 18:52 so sex is not a taboo topic in public school especially. 18:57 And so I've had the conversations 18:59 with my siblings. 19:01 And I recommend that the parents have conversations 19:03 because when I started the conversation 19:04 with my siblings, 19:06 they already knew things, 19:07 you know, I wasn't introducing the topic, 19:11 I was introducing the Christian way. 19:14 And so that's what they weren't getting. 19:16 So to think that 19:18 because you're not having the conversation 19:19 with your child, they're not thinking about it, 19:20 it's false, it's a false truth. 19:23 It's definitely a false truth that some people accept. 19:27 And so by going to something else, 19:31 just talking about proper interactions 19:33 that I think are relevant with teenagers 19:36 and young adults are understanding 19:39 that it is necessary to be around the opposite sex. 19:44 It is how God created us, to be around, 19:46 to be in the presence of the opposite sex. 19:50 And sometimes opposite gender is, 19:52 I'm using the term sex. 19:54 But being around the opposite gender 19:57 is absolutely necessary. 19:58 And just because I have an attraction as a teenager, 20:03 or I've an attraction as a young adult does not mean 20:06 that we need to be in a relationship, 20:07 does not mean that 20:09 it automatically is supposed to be romantic. 20:12 We can have a... 20:15 We can get to know each other. 20:16 Let's all go to the mall or let's all go to, you know, 20:20 go hang out in groups 20:23 and be able to have that interaction. 20:24 And I think as we allow that to happen as parents 20:29 and as leaders in our communities, 20:32 then it creates like you were saying, 20:34 a safe place for the natural order 20:37 of how God created things to be 20:39 when it comes to male and female interaction. 20:42 I completely agree with that, that I loved how you said that, 20:48 it wasn't only your parents 20:49 who had to have a conversation with your siblings. 20:52 Right. You had the conversation. 20:54 And it's not only parents that have to have the conversation, 20:57 church leaders, others need to have that conversation 21:00 with our youth and tell them exactly what's happening. 21:03 Kissing doesn't produce babies, 21:05 tell them about the reproduction process, 21:08 tell them exactly what happens 21:10 because not saying anything, it hasn't been doing anything, 21:13 it hasn't been effective. 21:15 It hasn't produced any miraculous results 21:18 where everybody's waiting until they're married, 21:21 it's not happening. 21:23 We just need to bite the bullet and just have the conversation 21:26 and talk about all the basics. 21:28 And before we keep on going, 21:30 I wanted to just talk really quickly about young men. 21:34 How can we help our boys to be a part of the abstinence 21:37 because we always hear these things with girls, 21:40 but we don't hear enough things to help our men feel like, 21:43 "Okay, it's okay for me at 14 years old 21:46 to not to want to have sex." 21:48 That's an excellent question. 21:49 And there's a lot that goes into that. 21:52 The reality is, as we say, 21:54 if we don't have the conversation 21:55 with our young men and our young girls, 21:58 someone else is going to have that conversation with them. 22:01 And so for a lot of young men, 22:04 it's been guys who've made mistakes, 22:07 guys who've gone in the wrong direction, 22:10 guys who don't even know where they want to go, 22:11 and in many ways our young men are being led by individuals 22:14 who don't even know where they're going. 22:16 So they're told, "Listen, 22:17 you should have this amount of women. 22:21 You should have them all over the United States, 22:24 all over the world if you can." 22:25 If you watch the music videos, 22:26 it's all about women dressed in a certain way 22:29 and guys dressing in a certain way. 22:31 And so it goes back to, first of all, 22:33 the young men having to have a respect 22:36 for themselves to recognize, 22:37 listen, you have a role to play 22:41 and not just to make our communities worse, 22:43 not to make our households, not to make our churches worse 22:45 but you're actually supposed to be a leader, right? 22:48 And so once they understand 22:49 that they have that responsibility, 22:51 now, we need to put them in situations 22:53 where they can be responsible. 22:54 I love what you said about putting individuals 22:57 of different sexes in the same place. 23:00 That's what AY is really all about, 23:01 it's about our young people being able to come together 23:03 and to have a good time, right, 23:05 but to also build friendships 23:07 and understand that I can have a friend 23:09 that's of the opposite sex without going too far, 23:12 right, without it going somewhere else 23:14 and that's important. 23:16 But also outside of having that conversation with them 23:18 and helping them understand their responsibilities, 23:21 outside of just putting them in places 23:23 where they can have these opportunities to interact 23:25 with individuals of the opposite sex. 23:27 They have to value themselves 23:30 and have standards for themselves. 23:32 And a lot of times, pushing it back to the Bible. 23:34 The Bible was written as an example for us, 23:36 as direction for us to know where to go. 23:40 And in many cases, we don't go back to the source. 23:44 God has standards for us. 23:46 He has expectations for us. 23:48 And it's okay for me to be 25 years old as a man 23:52 and be a virgin. 23:53 That's okay. That's okay. 23:56 I'm not a female but I can only imagine 23:59 that being 25 years old 24:00 and still being a virgin is noble, and appreciative, 24:03 and acceptable to a woman 24:05 who's thinking about marrying this individual. 24:07 I mean, would you rather have a virgin 24:08 or would you rather have someone 24:10 who's been with 30 different women. 24:12 You know what I mean? Yeah. 24:13 And so men need to understand 24:15 and that needs to be promoted that, 24:17 "Listen, to maintain your virginity to this point 24:22 is appreciated and valued in our community." 24:25 And we need to hear that more 24:27 because all we're hearing a lot of times is 24:29 that you're respected more 24:30 when you have the most women, 24:32 when you've broke this many hearts, 24:34 when you have this many names in your little black book 24:37 is what we had back when I was younger, 24:39 what they called it the little black book, 24:41 so that's what the conversation that we really need to have. 24:45 And I think that will help 24:46 change the trajectory of our young men in our society. 24:50 I agree. 24:52 I agree all the way, especially with the point of there is... 24:57 Women are attracted to a man that is a virgin. 25:03 I know insists like when you're... 25:06 As you're going through your hormonal changes, 25:08 and it seems like everybody has participated 25:10 in sexual activity, 25:12 there's sometimes it's taboo but when a woman gets older, 25:17 and it starts, she's starting to think about marriage. 25:21 And she saved herself 25:24 but all the guys have been around all of her friends 25:28 or a whole bunch of women somewhere else, 25:32 it's like, "Okay, I've saved myself 25:33 but you're coming into this thing 25:35 with these expectations 25:37 that I'm not going to be able to fulfill 25:39 because I'm brand new." 25:41 And so there is definitely an attractiveness to a man 25:47 who is a virgin like it is, if I can say, 25:53 my husband wasn't a virgin. 25:55 But in the eyes of a new creation, 26:00 he was celibate for 10 years before we got married. 26:05 And so that was something to me that was thoroughly attractive, 26:11 something that I really, really appreciate it. 26:15 Completely, completely agree. 26:17 There's something about a man 26:18 who chose to value his inner sense 26:22 when some women are trying to value their inner sense 26:25 when they come together as one... 26:27 Can I add something? 26:28 Can I... Please, I'm sorry. 26:29 Ten seconds. 26:31 Ten seconds, no, I just wanted to give the other side, 26:32 for man to know that a woman has saved herself 26:37 is also something of value as well. 26:39 So I don't want the guys to just think that 26:41 they should be the only ones saving themselves 26:44 or the ladies as well. 26:45 As me and we look and we say, 26:47 you know what, that's something special 26:49 when a woman decides to do that as well. 26:52 As we're wrapping up our discussion, 26:53 we want you to be able to continue 26:55 having a discussion. 26:57 Asking the questions: 26:58 "What can we do to help our teenagers be abstinent, 27:03 to stay away not only from having sex 27:05 but also from masturbation, pornography, sexting, 27:09 and all these other forms of sexual activity? 27:13 One very important thing is prayer. 27:16 Pray with your teenagers. 27:19 Teenagers, pray amongst yourselves 27:21 that God will give you the grace 27:23 needed to be able to stay pure 27:27 until you are married. 27:30 You want to pray, you cannot do it without prayer. 27:32 The Bible says in Psalms 37:23, 27:36 "The steps of a man are established by the Lord 27:39 when He delights in his way. 27:41 Though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong 27:43 for the Lord upholds his hand." 27:46 Prayer gives you that connection with God, so do so. 27:50 And please remember to make pure choices. 27:54 Thank you, guys. 27:55 Yay. 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