Living to Be Well

Positive Reflection

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00:35 Hi, I'm Dr. Kim
00:37 and welcome to Live to be Well.
00:39 Today on our Program,
00:40 we're going to be talking about: Positive Reflections.
00:44 I want to welcome my guest today, Ki'Rah Tyus, welcome.
00:47 Hi, thank you for having me.
00:49 Oh, my little baby,
00:51 I should let them know that I met you
00:53 when you were just four years old
00:55 and you were a part of our
00:57 "God's Hands of Praise" Sign Language Choir...
00:59 and you and your sister,
01:01 so how are you?
01:03 I'm doing good, everything is good,
01:05 can't complain about nothing now.
01:07 You know what? Wouldn't change anything
01:09 because everything's in God's hands.
01:10 Yes Ma'am.
01:12 You know, you're just another old soul
01:14 I have to say, all right,
01:15 so, oh, something just recently happened, what happened?
01:18 Recently happened...
01:20 I had my conference with my girls' group...
01:22 Infinity Girls... it was called The Free Indeed Conference
01:24 and we just basically talked about
01:26 increasing your relationship with God
01:28 and how important it is to keep yourself until marriage
01:31 and knowing your self-worth so it was an awesome time,
01:34 the ladies were... they were blessed with the conference
01:37 and everything... it was just really good...
01:39 people were saying, "I'm so excited about next year"
01:42 so, we're in the process of planning for next year
01:44 but other than that, it was awesome...
01:46 I'm very satisfied for what God did for my first one,
01:50 it was our first one... so it was awesome.
01:52 It was awesome... now you also recently
01:54 graduated with your Associate's Degree.
01:56 Yes ma'am.
01:58 Let's talk about that and what was your field of study?
02:00 Okay, so, I did go to the Community College first,
02:03 it's cheaper to go that way
02:04 than going straight to university.
02:05 I graduated from OCC with my Associate's in...
02:08 And that's Oakwood Community College.
02:09 Yes, Oakwood Community College
02:11 with my Associate's in Applied Arts
02:13 that just took care of all my prerequisites
02:16 for my Nursing School
02:17 because I want to get my Bachelor of Science in Nursing
02:19 and then, I would be going to Oakwood University
02:22 to get my Nurse Practitioner Degree.
02:24 So, you are interested in nursing,
02:26 why do you want to be a nurse?
02:28 Ever since, I was a young girl,
02:30 I've always wanted to be in the medical field
02:32 rather, it was helping animals...
02:33 I went from a Vet to a Pediatrician to NCC ideas...
02:36 whatever it was... it was always within the medical field
02:40 because I love helping people
02:42 and I love helping people feel better,
02:44 you know, so my mom owns a Daycare
02:46 and everything like that...
02:47 so, when the little kids would get hurt, I'm like,
02:49 "Send them to me... I want to make sure they're okay"
02:51 then I'd go ahead put a Band-Aid on it
02:53 but, "Okay, come see Dr. Ki'Rah"
02:55 I've always wanted to be that person
02:58 that people can come to and be like,
02:59 "I know that she can take care of me,
03:01 I know that she can make me feel better"
03:02 so, the field that I wanted to go into is nursing
03:05 because nurses are the ones that are usually...
03:07 are the ones like, face-to-face with people...
03:09 That's true... that's true.
03:11 and helping people making sure that they are okay
03:12 and taking care of everything so...
03:15 and a Nurse Practitioner is like the highest nurse
03:18 that you can go into and what not, so...
03:20 Does that require a Master's degree and everything?
03:23 Yes, so you will basically get you BS
03:25 and then you would go to Nurse Practitioner School
03:28 so, yeah, different segments or different places you can go.
03:33 I can work with the heart, diabetes...
03:35 it doesn't matter which field I want to go into,
03:37 pediatrics is where I will want to go to.
03:39 Okay, you love the children.
03:41 Yes, so, working like in Children's Hospital
03:42 or working in the Pediatrics office,
03:44 working with kids and their care.
03:46 Our topic today is: Positive Reflection
03:49 and we tend to look at our peers or family members...
03:55 our relationships...
03:56 who has been your positive reflection?
04:00 And I know you are a Christian young woman
04:03 and you tickle me when you say, "Ever since I was a young girl"
04:08 like you're 90 years old, all right,
04:10 I'm telling you... okay...
04:12 so, who do you reflect your character through
04:18 and let's talk about Jesus Christ first
04:21 and then your Godly parents.
04:24 Okay. Kim: All right.
04:25 So, I've always been in church all my life
04:28 I accepted Christ when I was around 3... 4 years old,
04:33 and it was a choice I made on my own...
04:35 I came to my dad and said, "Dad, I'm ready...
04:37 I want to know God more, I want to be a part of church more"
04:41 and everything like that
04:42 so, ever since I made that connection for myself,
04:46 I've always been trying to just know more about God
04:49 for myself,
04:51 it's not that my parents forced me,
04:52 it's not that someone was telling me,
04:54 "You have to be a part of the church"
04:55 even though I knew that was the right thing to do,
04:58 it was still my choice to make that decision.
05:01 and a positive... I always wanted to make sure
05:04 that wherever I go, people will see God in me first,
05:07 I don't want them to see Ki'Rah,
05:08 even when I pray, I say,
05:10 "God, decrease me so that you may increase in my life
05:13 so when people see me they see your light...
05:15 they see your grace...
05:16 they see your mercy upon my life"
05:18 and so I want... when people see me,
05:20 I want them, like, "What is on you, I want that"
05:21 you know,
05:23 and I want people to make sure they see me
05:25 so any decision that I make... anything that I say,
05:28 anything that I do,
05:29 I want to make sure that it is pleasing in God's eyes first
05:32 because at the end of the day,
05:33 I'm not here to please anyone else but Him,
05:36 I realized that at a young age.
05:38 Well, let me ask you this, that's a lot of pressure.
05:40 It is.
05:42 And you know, you have people looking at you
05:44 and it's like you're under a microscope
05:47 you can't make a mistake
05:48 and so, how do you deal with the challenges
05:52 or, that type of shifting where...
05:56 "All right, when I walk into a place...
05:59 or I'm in a place where people know who I am... "
06:01 it's like, "Okay... "
06:03 because if this is something you do every day, 24 hours a day...
06:06 then it's there in your character.
06:08 All right, so it doesn't come off, does it?
06:10 No.
06:11 Our walk with Christ should be with us at all times, all right,
06:15 so, what are the challenges you face
06:17 because you're 20 years old
06:19 you know, so, you're not into night clubs.
06:22 No.
06:23 You're not out there doing things,
06:25 you're still a virgin.
06:26 Yes, I am.
06:28 Yeah, all right, and you're proud of it.
06:30 I am... I am very proud of it because it's...
06:33 it's a... you don't find it in a lot of young women
06:36 now in our generation who hold that
06:39 and want to hold it
06:40 because they don't realize how important it is,
06:43 you only have it one time... you know...
06:44 so, why... you know...
06:46 why not wait until the one that God wants you to be with
06:49 for the rest of your life
06:50 but the pressure... and you know how I deal with that...
06:54 it's very... I mean it can get hard at times
06:58 because in our generation, it's all about judgment,
07:01 how you look... what you say...
07:03 who you hang out with... what do you do?
07:05 But I realize that
07:07 I don't really care what people think about me
07:11 as long as I know I'm good in God's eyes,
07:13 so, when I would go to school, I was always the one
07:16 that was like... by myself...
07:18 or I had very, very little friends
07:20 because everyone else wanted to do...
07:22 they wanted to smoke... they wanted to party...
07:24 they wanted to do things like that
07:26 and I'm like, "That's not in me... "
07:28 and if they try to put me in...
07:31 I'm like, "I don't even feel comfortable talking about it. "
07:33 So there was some peer pressure.
07:35 Yes, there was peer pressure, but when it happened,
07:38 I'm like, "I don't even feel comfortable,
07:40 I don't even feel right, it's not something that I... "
07:42 and I'm never ever going to do anything
07:44 that I don't feel right doing
07:46 and if it's not something that
07:48 will put a positive reflection on me,
07:50 or on a guy and my parents...
07:52 I'm not going to do it
07:54 because when people think about you,
07:56 first impression is everything
07:58 and you want to make sure that you leave a positive mark
08:00 and a positive... a positive look upon yourself
08:03 towards other people.
08:05 Because you can't change that, you know,
08:06 first impressions are lasting
08:08 and once they meet you as you walk through the door,
08:11 "Hi, how are you? It's nice to meet you. "
08:13 Yes ma'am.
08:14 So, that's my first impression
08:16 and I remember when you came
08:18 to my home for the first time
08:20 and I was like,
08:22 "What's going on with this little girl"
08:24 and your parents walked through my home
08:26 you looked everywhere...
08:27 and they were comfortable, they stayed for a few minutes
08:30 and it's like... they went out on a date night, all right,
08:33 left the two of you all with me, all right... and Elder Nowlin,
08:36 so, let's talk about how you present yourself in dress
08:41 because Society now says,
08:44 "We need to just be half naked. "
08:46 Right...
08:47 How would you dress, I mean, I look at you now
08:50 just beautifully dressed.
08:51 Yes ma'am, when I think about how I dress,
08:55 I always want to make sure that it's never too revealing
08:58 that it always holds up the standard of a young lady...
09:02 a young woman...
09:03 I don't want people to see me as... like a...
09:07 when people look at me, I want them to be like,
09:10 "That young lady has pride,
09:13 that young lady thinks well of herself,
09:15 that young lady takes care of herself... "
09:17 or "that young lady thinks that she is worth something"
09:20 because when you show your body
09:22 when you have shorts on that's too short
09:25 or when you have tube tops on and everything like that,
09:28 you're giving the...
09:30 you're not giving that feeling or wanting to like,
09:35 "I want to know more about her" you know what I'm saying?
09:37 Like, when you show your... when you show everything,
09:40 they're like, "That's how she is"
09:41 or, you know, like, they can just put on a type of...
09:44 they can think something about you
09:45 because you're showing everything to the world already.
09:48 They'll date you... men will date you...
09:51 "Oh, you look good... you're sexy... "
09:53 Right.
09:54 "You're this and that... "
09:56 but they won't take you home to meet their mother.
09:57 Right...
09:58 Because they know...
10:00 I wish my son would bring someone to my home
10:02 with some shorts on... and a tube top...
10:06 I'm like, "If you don't take her out of my house... "
10:08 Exactly...
10:09 But I want to be a Christian and I want to be...
10:11 maybe I can sit down and talk with her
10:13 and say, "Well, honey... I... "
10:15 I mean, I'd be like, "I can't get past the shorts"
10:17 I would... in my mind,
10:18 but I wouldn't say it,
10:20 "I will try to be very kind and nice"
10:22 but see... if you came to my home with my son,
10:25 I'd be like, "Hi... "
10:27 because again, first impressions are lasting,
10:29 what's going on with the natural look you got going on,
10:33 everyone is coming out of the press
10:35 and... what's going on?
10:36 Well, I always had thick hair
10:39 but I never realized how beautiful or how...
10:43 just everything about my hair is amazing to me,
10:47 I started being natural 2015
10:50 me and my sister did the same thing... the big chop...
10:52 I don't know if you heard of it yet
10:54 when you cut off like, all your natural...
10:55 all like your straight hair so, you know,
10:57 you wet your hair and what not, I used to like...
11:00 all your straight hair and you cut it off...
11:01 and I clipped off about three inches
11:03 and when I first did that, my hair was at my neck,
11:06 now, it's down my back, so...
11:08 but the thing about the natural hair
11:10 is just knowing... and knowing that you're beautiful
11:12 with your natural everything...
11:15 you know, so you know,
11:16 you don't have to wear the weave...
11:18 you don't have to wear... and it's not you...
11:20 this is me... everything about it is me
11:24 and I think, sometimes, women...
11:26 we tend to hide behind that
11:28 because we don't have the hair that we want
11:30 or we don't have the hair like the girl...
11:32 "Oh, she has the... the mixed hair"
11:34 whereas, it just lays perfectly
11:36 and I have the other hair where it doesn't cooperate"
11:39 and everything like that,
11:40 and... natural hair... it just allows you to realize
11:44 how beautiful you really are because this is your hair,
11:48 this is the hair that God gave you.
11:49 Back in the '70s way before you were born
11:52 I think, I might have been born,
11:55 and we... you know...
11:57 it was really about the movement of black people...
12:01 and the Afros... and everyone was really wearing the dashikis
12:07 and... oh, I didn't realize I said dashiki
12:10 that's really dating me here
12:12 and I was there when they went back there...
12:14 the African prince...
12:15 but it really gave us pride... it gave us a sense of well-being
12:20 and we would... I remember... I was in the 8th grade...
12:26 it was... for my 8th Grade Academy graduation...
12:29 my hair was straight, it was long
12:31 and I went with my girlfriend
12:33 and she was like, "You need to do an Afro"
12:36 didn't ask my mother anything...
12:37 when I came back, I had a short Afro,
12:40 my mother just... she didn't know what to say
12:43 and I... I had pride... I felt good...
12:47 I got my "pick" I was picking my Afro out...
12:51 and I think it lasted maybe about...
12:54 I think I had it about at least three years...
12:56 Wow!
12:57 I did... and I... I can appreciate it...
13:01 so, when I turn that golden years...
13:05 I'm not there yet,
13:06 I'm thinking about doing something au naturel
13:09 all right, and I can appreciate that
13:11 you know,
13:13 to give it a different perspective.
13:14 All right, let's talk about siblings.
13:15 Okay, I have an older sister, her name is Kiara...
13:19 I have a younger brother, his name is Christopher,
13:22 we're all very... we're close and everything...
13:25 my sister... we're a part of "God's Hands of Praise"
13:28 and then we left... we left and everything...
13:31 me and my sister... we both are in ministry...
13:34 I would say... we both are on fire for God,
13:37 we want to make sure that this generation understands
13:41 that it's okay to be "on fire" for God
13:43 and it's okay to love God and want to know more about Him,
13:47 you don't have to be ashamed of doing that...
13:49 and my little brother... he's in high school now...
13:52 I can't believe Christopher... he was a baby...
13:56 he was in my Sign Language Class yes,
13:58 I had the opportunity of watching social media
14:03 and you were doing the Program, Infinity Girls...
14:07 and I heard you pray
14:09 and it truly brought tears to my eyes
14:13 because of the love you have for Jesus
14:17 and the way you were ministering to these young girls
14:21 and what an example
14:22 and going back to about being a virgin...
14:25 because you talk about purity to the girls.
14:28 Why do you incorporate purity
14:30 and why is that important?
14:33 It's important because
14:35 God gives us that for one purpose... one purpose only
14:38 that's for union which is marriage,
14:40 it's not to be used...
14:42 or not to be abused... I would say
14:44 and just being whole and one...
14:47 it's so important in God's eyes
14:49 because you only get one body...
14:51 you only get one life... one temple
14:53 and you should want to take care of that temple
14:56 forever...
14:57 so, purity... is just not even...
15:00 not even having sex it's...
15:02 purity is not having sex... not drinking... not smoking...
15:05 not just doing anything harmful to your body
15:08 and it's important because
15:10 that's what God would want us to do.
15:11 He wouldn't want us to have it any other way.
15:13 We need to get back to that,
15:15 of knowing that I am worth something...
15:19 knowing that I am worth more than what you may think of me...
15:22 knowing that I am worth the wait...
15:23 so, if you're not willing to wait for me,
15:25 then you're not the one for me...
15:27 that's everything about purity...
15:30 it's no one respects you...
15:31 you need to respect yourself first.
15:34 As long as you respect yourself first,
15:36 then God is pleased with what you're doing,
15:38 so, no sex, no drinking... no smoking...
15:40 I haven't done none of that myself...
15:42 I'm very proud of that...
15:43 I'm not ashamed of it,
15:45 I will tell anyone in a heartbeat... "I am a virgin. "
15:48 Now, it can get hard at times because Satan can hear you
15:51 and he will want to try to make you fall
15:53 and he will want to try to make you
15:56 get off-track and everything
15:58 but you have to make sure that you stay in front of God...
16:00 seek His face...
16:01 and He will give you evidence you need,
16:03 when you're alone at night,
16:05 you're like, "God, you know, I need you"
16:08 just pray... it might be hard for us
16:10 as young women to do that
16:11 or it might be hard for us as this generation...
16:13 it's not, I guess, "Cool" to pray
16:15 or it's not cool to ask God,
16:17 it's not cool to be in God's face...
16:20 but we also have to realize that God is the One
16:24 who gives us everything that we have...
16:25 He gives us our life, health and strength,
16:27 so, we have to realize that whatever He needs from us
16:31 or whatever He wants from us,
16:32 we should be able to make that sacrifice
16:34 and give it to Him and... I guess I'll say,
16:37 "I'm proud to be a virgin, I'm proud to be pure,
16:39 and everything... "
16:41 and I'm not going to stop until I get the ring...
16:43 "If you like it, you must put a ring on it"
16:46 right...
16:47 All right, so do you have anything that causes you
16:51 fear... are you afraid of anything?
16:55 that would be presented to you,
16:58 like me, I'm afraid...
16:59 I will on get on roller coasters.
17:01 Really? I love roller coasters.
17:03 No, no, no, no, no... I... I made promise to the Lord...
17:05 I was 22 years old,
17:08 I said, "Lord, if you get me off this roller coaster alive,
17:12 I will never get back on one"
17:14 that was at 22...
17:16 And you never went back on.
17:17 Never... I hold purses,
17:19 I will hold everyone's purse, all right,
17:22 walk around... and just drink my water and keep it moving.
17:25 Keep it moving.
17:27 And just, "Hi... " and keep it moving
17:29 so, I don't do roller coasters,
17:31 I don't... I don't have a fear of snakes...
17:35 are you afraid of snakes?
17:36 I am... I guess it's different
17:40 because when I was in school...
17:43 elementary school... they had like this little petting zoo,
17:46 they would come... and they brought this big banana snake...
17:48 I'm like... "Ah... "
17:50 Did you put it around your neck?
17:51 Yes, I was like, "Oooh... " I was like, "Jesus... "
17:53 I was sitting here, I'm like, "Oh my God... "
17:57 they'll put the head on your knee,
17:58 they'll put the tail in your...
17:59 put it right in the middle where I don't want to touch it,
18:01 I mean, I wouldn't say...
18:03 it's a fear, I don't like...
18:05 But didn't it help you to overcome that a little bit?
18:08 It did... a little bit...
18:09 Confronted it...
18:11 I would never hold it by myself.
18:12 So, you would never buy a pet snake?
18:15 No... Kim: Okay, no...
18:16 If I ever bought any, like, exotic animal or anything...
18:20 I would probably buy a lizard, I would never get a snake.
18:25 Really? But that comes from the reptile family.
18:28 I mean, if I got anything, like, from within the reptile...
18:30 snake family... reptile family, I will only get a lizard,
18:34 I would not get nothing near a snake.
18:36 Okay, so, do you know how to cook?
18:39 Because a lot of our young people today,
18:40 don't know how to cook.
18:41 I had a patient last night and she doesn't know how to cook
18:45 so, I was doing recipes in my therapy session
18:48 because it was causing such anxiety for her and her mother
18:51 so, do you know how to cook?
18:53 Well, I would just say this, I do know how to cook
18:56 and I learned from my dad... my dad... he's the cook... yes.
18:59 Really?
19:01 Because my grandmother who passed a couple of months ago,
19:03 my grandmother... she was like the queen of cooking
19:07 so, I definitely learned how to cook
19:10 from watching my dad cooking Thanksgiving Dinner
19:12 or, you know, just cooking in the house most of the time...
19:15 so I know how to cook macaroni and cheese,
19:17 I know how to do some spaghetti sometimes,
19:19 you know, just like the small stuff.
19:22 Small things... you sound like Erin, okay.
19:24 This morning, I want to learn more
19:28 I want to know... know more about cooking and everything
19:31 because it's just healthier living.
19:33 Yes, so you like vegetables you eat fruit... lot of water...
19:37 Yes.
19:38 All right, do you work out... do you exercise?
19:40 I mean, right now, I do exercise in the summer time
19:44 but like, when school starts... it's... I have to balance that.
19:47 You have to balance that.
19:48 Because you have school... you may have 12-Credit classes
19:51 and then you have homework to do
19:53 and lean towards your job
19:54 so it's like... during the school year
19:56 I definitely had to... I know how to balance everything
20:00 so, I do work out and I could work out more...
20:03 Kim: Could work out more...
20:04 I could work out more... there's always room for improvement
20:06 and everything...
20:07 See this is that old soul in you all right,
20:10 and I'm just listening to you, you know, so let's...
20:14 dating... because with school and work and ministry,
20:18 is there anyone special you like
20:20 or you're just waiting for the Lord.
20:22 No... no... there is no...
20:24 You can tell me... all right, tell me...
20:26 nobody ever said, "No" all right.
20:28 No, there is no one special right now,
20:31 I'm not going to say that men have not...
20:34 oh, not men but young men...
20:35 young men have not tried to come into my life
20:38 and when there was that time, I'm just like,
20:41 "Okay God, show me who they really are"
20:44 I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone
20:48 who is not willing to increase their relationship with you,
20:52 anyone that I date or intend on dating
20:56 we have to be friends first,
20:58 I want to make sure that I'm dating my best friend...
21:00 I don't want to date anyone that I do not know
21:02 I don't want to date anyone who doesn't have...
21:04 or close to the same values that I have...
21:07 which is God first in everything that I do...
21:09 purity... I'm not having anything until I get married,
21:13 and just... education is very important to me as well.
21:16 If you are not educated
21:18 or if you're not trying to improve yourself
21:20 in where you are right now,
21:22 then, there's really no point of talking to me
21:25 because I'm not...
21:27 You're not taking care of a grown man.
21:28 No... I am not... ah... ah...
21:29 Your father... and I know your father...
21:31 he's not having it, all right.
21:32 Now, if you marry and something happens,
21:34 there's an accident... he's laid off work...
21:37 or a shift in the business or something
21:39 that's understandable. Ki'Rah: Yes.
21:41 You know, when I met Elder Nowlin,
21:42 he was working for an Agency and one day he came home
21:45 and he was looking very depressed...
21:48 I think he used it to manipulate me
21:50 and I said, "What's wrong?"
21:52 And he says, "I just quit my job. "
21:54 I said, "Really, we just bought a new house"
21:56 and he said, "But I just don't want to do this anymore,
22:00 I don't want to work at this Agency"
22:01 and I said, "Well, what do you want to do?"
22:03 And he said, "I want to get my Master's
22:06 and I want to get certified...
22:07 I want to get my Clinical Drug Test...
22:09 pass all of that...
22:11 and I said, "And then what?"
22:13 He said, "I want to come work with you. "
22:14 And I said, "Okay"
22:16 and I told him... I said, "If you leave me
22:19 after you get these degrees,
22:20 I will hunt you down all right"
22:22 and he went to school... knocked it out in a year...
22:25 I would take him, pick him up, fix his lunch...
22:28 and he graduated... he was so happy...
22:32 and he went on to get his license...
22:35 and certification... certification... certification
22:38 and we joined Practice together
22:41 until the day he passed we were one...
22:44 and I think that's very important
22:46 to be able to stand behind someone...
22:49 to believe in someone and I took a risk...
22:51 I took a major risk to say, "Okay, quit your job"
22:55 that meant that my finance... our finances... had to be right
22:59 and he said, "Well, Honey, you work all the time"
23:02 which I do... I love to work...
23:04 and I'm trying to balance it now,
23:06 I love helping people, but I had to say to myself,
23:10 "He is very sincere,
23:11 I don't believe He would leave me
23:13 and he would be here"
23:15 and he was... he gave everything he had
23:18 even to Dare to Dream... this broadcast.
23:21 Dating... what's a good age to date?
23:24 You did not want to know my answer to that
23:26 but what's a good age to date?
23:28 In my opinion, I feel like, it all depends on the person,
23:32 I'm very mature for my age,
23:35 a lot of people wouldn't think I'm only 20 years old,
23:38 they would be like, "I thought you were 25"
23:41 I'm like, "No... I'm only 20 years old"
23:44 and I would say, my maturity came from
23:46 just being around the people that I had... my grandparents,
23:50 my parents, you... for example...
23:52 just seeing other young...
23:54 just seeing other women in my life.
23:56 People mentoring you.
23:57 Yes, people mentoring or pouring into me...
23:59 just seeing how they went about life...
24:02 and I just took that and I ran with it, so...
24:04 Would you date an older man?
24:06 Would I date an older man?
24:08 If I did, it wouldn't be over like three years,
24:11 I wouldn't... the three years would be like my max.
24:14 Okay, see, now, see...
24:16 Uncle Arthur was nine years older than me
24:18 it worked... it worked.
24:19 I'm not saying it couldn't work, I'm not saying...
24:21 I guess... I guess like right now,
24:25 when it comes to age and everything,
24:28 it's all in God's hands...
24:30 I'm not going to go put a time limit
24:33 but me, personally, and I know my dad...
24:36 he's like, "You can't date no one
24:37 past five years or three years"
24:39 so I was like, I have my dad...
24:40 Who's older, your father or your mother?
24:42 My dad is older.
24:43 Than your mother... okay.
24:44 Yes, but only about a couple of months
24:46 because my dad was born 1969, my mom was born 1970...
24:48 so it was not...
24:50 They're going to get you... telling their age
24:51 on national television, oh my goodness,
24:53 so, all right... so...
24:55 it is right to allow the Lord to lead...
24:58 allow the Lord to guide you to that right person
25:02 and where He wants that fit to be...
25:05 Are you strictly interested in marrying an African American?
25:11 I am not... I am not...
25:14 Really... let's talk about that.
25:16 I would... I mean... I would definitely say
25:19 that I don't... you know...
25:21 whatever God has for me and what not...
25:23 so if another ethnicity young man tried talking to me,
25:29 I wouldn't be like, "No... "
25:30 "Because you're not African American... "
25:31 Exactly, even though my grandfather was like,
25:34 "You need to marry within the race"
25:36 and things like that
25:38 I said, "I understand Grandfather
25:41 but if other races come to me,
25:43 if an African American man doesn't come to me,
25:46 and is correct or has some stuff going on...
25:48 but then I have another young man who's interested,
25:51 who is not our color,
25:52 you know, I'm not going to just be like,
25:54 'I'm sorry, I can't date you
25:55 because my grandfather told me to date within our race'"
25:59 as long as you love God... as long as you...
26:01 as long as I can follow you...
26:03 because a man is supposed to lead the household...
26:05 spiritually... in marriage and everything,
26:07 as long as I see that in you,
26:09 as long as you do put God first even before me,
26:13 then, I know that you are a good match to me.
26:16 So, if he's says...
26:17 okay God, brings this wonderful person to you...
26:19 he may not or may be African American...
26:22 may not... and he says, "Well, I live in Turkey"
26:25 you know, your family is here in Michigan
26:28 and you love him, he's of God...
26:30 he's educated... has a good job
26:32 but is in Turkey
26:34 you know,
26:35 that's a long way from mummy and daddy.
26:39 It is a long way from mummy and daddy
26:41 but it's funny that you say that because I told mom and dad,
26:44 I said, "Mom and Dad, what if my husband is in Texas,
26:46 what if my husband is in California,
26:48 or he's somewhere because I love down south,
26:50 if I could do it... I would move down south in a heartbeat,
26:54 I don't like being cold in Michigan...
26:57 it's like snow, it's cold...
26:59 you don't know what it wants to do
27:01 because we get half a day's rain... and that... so...
27:02 if the guy who wants to marry me and he's like,
27:06 "I live in Turkey" and what not...
27:08 I would definitely have to adjust to it...
27:12 and pray about it,
27:13 but if God is saying,
27:15 "This is the man you're supposed to be with"
27:16 then, I'm going to go... Kim: You're going to do it.
27:19 Yeah, I'm going to go...
27:20 it's all about being that support system...
27:22 it's all about being there for him and everything
27:24 and if I... as long as it's going to work for both of us,
27:27 I'm not going to...
27:28 Kim: It will work. Ki'Rah: Exactly.
27:30 In closing, your favorite Scripture.
27:31 Psalm 46 and 5...
27:34 it says, "God is within her, she cannot fail"
27:37 I hold that very dear to my heart
27:38 because God is in everything that I do,
27:41 I don't pray... I mean, I pray every day...
27:43 anything that I do as far as school...
27:46 as far as relationships... as far as ministry,
27:48 I always, "Okay God, give me the okay to do this
27:52 give me the okay to do whatever you want me to do,
27:55 I want to make sure that you are in in my life...
27:57 and that you are Head of my life,
27:59 I don't want to do anything that is not...
28:01 if it does not have you in it" so...
28:04 Well, I just want to thank you for being here,
28:06 you gave us a lot of great information...
28:09 a lot of high energy... all right...
28:11 you just made me tired all right...
28:13 and people say, "Dr. Kim got all this energy"
28:15 but I praise God for your life...
28:17 continue to live to be well.
28:18 I will.
28:20 Positive reflection...
28:21 let it be said in your life that you do have a reflection of God,
28:26 I'm Dr. Kim, continue to live to be well.
28:29 God bless.


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