Participants: Paul & Carolyn Rayne (Host), Hannah & Caleb Rayne
Series Code: HTH
Program Code: HTH00025A
00:01 In the last few Happy the Home programs,
00:03 we have covered a lot of important topics for parents.
00:06 Join us for another Happy the Home,
00:08 as we review, "Me, Myself and I",
00:10 "A Sword Fight with the Devil" and "Organizing Confusion".
00:35 Welcome to Happy the Home.
00:37 We are excited to go through program number 25 with you,
00:41 that corresponds with Chapter 25
00:44 in the Companion Book that goes along with this program.
00:48 The book is entitled The Connected Family
00:50 and it is designed to aid the programs.
00:55 It gives you opportunity there to do
00:57 some of the challenges that we've talked about
00:59 and a place to journal all your responses.
01:02 But today, we are going to be
01:04 reviewing some important topics as Carolyn told us
01:08 there at the beginning.
01:09 We are looking at "Me, Myself and I."
01:11 And if you watch that program,
01:13 you'll enjoy the review.
01:15 We're gonna go quick fire through that.
01:16 And then we are going to look at
01:18 "A Sword Fight with the Devil."
01:21 And then lastly, we're going to look at
01:22 "Organizing Confusion."
01:24 So let's start off Carolyn,
01:26 "Me, Myself and I." What is self?
01:30 Self is that yucky stuff inside,
01:32 is the animals inside of us.
01:35 They are clamoring to be in control. Absolutely.
01:40 And where this gets applicable to family life
01:44 and to parenting is that as we seek to raise our children.
01:48 As we seek to have a happy home,
01:51 self is the... one of the enemies,
01:54 one of the main enemies that the devil allies with
01:57 to try and mess things up at home.
01:59 And if you watch that program and this is the review
02:02 and you've been more sensitive to how self manifest itself.
02:08 Then you know exactly what we're talking about, so...
02:11 In fact, self is the greatest battle
02:14 we're ever going to have to fight.
02:15 there are many things we have to battle with,
02:17 but self is the biggest one.
02:18 And in that program you might remember,
02:20 I gave an illustration from Carolyn
02:23 had a nice time in Africa.
02:25 And just very briefly, we're out in the African bush
02:28 and we were late getting back to our mission station.
02:31 We were driving back from South Africa
02:34 and we were going over a potholed road.
02:36 And Carolyn said to me in the nicest way,
02:40 I think we should slowdown sweetie
02:42 or worse to that affect.
02:44 And it just... it kind of got under my skin,
02:48 it's like who is driving this vehicle.
02:51 You know, don't you know I can see the potholes
02:54 and I don't need help from you,
02:56 not that I said all of that, but that was my attitude.
02:58 It wasn't just a few moments later.
03:00 We hit the pothole, we got a flat tire
03:03 and then he got into changing the flat tire.
03:05 And Carolyn didn't put that little warning triangle out
03:08 where I thought she should.
03:10 I ended up yelling at her and then she walked off in a...
03:16 what would you call it? I don't know what I was in?
03:17 I'll call it a huff.
03:18 She walked off in a huff and when she was about
03:21 a mile away then I'm yelling at her again,
03:23 no way come back.
03:25 And so we told you that story,
03:28 so that you would know very clearly
03:32 what we are meaning by self. It's the selfishness in us.
03:35 Now you mentioned in that program,
03:37 that you didn't even know you had a self
03:39 until you were 30 years of age.
03:41 Is that really when self starts?
03:44 What do you think viewers?
03:46 Well, not really and if you wait till then
03:49 to deal with self, you've basically fed it all
03:51 those years before.
03:53 You know, self starts, it's in our infants
03:55 and you may say well how is that?
03:56 Well, in my infants at least, self would be the way
03:59 they would demonstrate that would be,
04:01 you know, holding them,
04:02 they are on your lap and they are arching their back
04:04 because they wouldn't be somewhere else
04:05 in some other position and you put them
04:07 in a different position they arch their back
04:09 because they don't want to be there.
04:10 Very first early manifestation of self.
04:13 And then we talked about how that moves
04:15 into a bigger child, a toddler
04:18 and they are sitting on your lap
04:19 and they kind to push themselves off
04:20 and slide down your leg onto the floor,
04:22 because that's where they want to be and you bring them back
04:24 and they push and do that over again.
04:26 And before you know it, it turns into tantrums.
04:29 We're just talking about how self if not dealt, it grows.
04:32 I mean, we all have seen the miserable tantrum face
04:36 that children will go through, some children.
04:38 And it's miserable, isn't it for everybody?
04:40 Well I feel bad, you know, it happened to us,
04:42 it happened to us in the airport I remember one time.
04:44 But I feel bad for the parents
04:47 in those situations.
04:48 It's like they are powerless, but what we are talking about
04:51 here with self and recognizing it
04:53 and know we have to deal with it.
04:56 It's gonna help those kind of situations.
04:58 Oh, absolutely. And it's gonna help the parents.
04:59 It's gonna lead to a happier home.
05:01 And you can't deal with your child's self
05:03 until you dealt with yours?
05:04 Right! Well it's got to be a joint process,
05:07 because if we're waiting to all our self
05:08 is gone before we start working
05:10 on the children, we'll be gone. Right.
05:14 So then in Africa there was that little girl
05:17 and she didn't know she was exhibiting self,
05:21 but it was just the epitome of self.
05:23 What did she say, do you remember?
05:24 Well, she is about four years old
05:26 and when there was something she didn't appreciate.
05:27 She would stick her hands on her hips and go,
05:29 I don't like, just like that.
05:33 And she is probably 24 now. I hope she has got over it.
05:36 You did that very well. It wasn't me in Africa I mean.
05:41 Now you worked for in Africa.
05:42 You know, and then as our children progress
05:45 and they get into youthhood that self starts to manifest.
05:49 There are sometimes they might put their hands
05:51 on their hip and say I don't like.
05:52 But they tend to do in a different way by this point.
05:55 It's kind of like, you know, stupid parents.
06:00 What do they know about anything?
06:01 You know, and it starts to manifest itself
06:04 in disrespect or in selective hearing where the children,
06:08 they don't hear you anymore.
06:10 It's like, I didn't want to hear that,
06:11 so I'm just gonna take no notice
06:12 or just outright disobedience.
06:14 Hey, can you go to the store on your way back
06:18 from such and such tonight and pick me up some things.
06:21 No, I don't want to, it's not my stuff get it yourself.
06:24 That is self and it's getting more objectionable
06:28 until you get to the adult stage.
06:30 Now something different happens in adults.
06:32 We start to recognize it, not that we necessarily
06:35 have given it that name, but then we start to cover it up.
06:39 And we start to, you know, we try to cap it,
06:42 so that it's not so obvious.
06:43 But, you know, we need to be dealing
06:46 with self in our own hearts and we need to be dealing
06:48 with the self in our children.
06:50 But, be careful because we also said on that program.
06:52 Something that is very true and that is that
06:55 yourself and myself doesn't want to deal with itself.
06:58 It wants to deal with other peoples self.
07:01 I hope you got that.
07:03 What I'm essentially saying is we rather fix somebody else
07:05 and take the speck out their eye without taking
07:08 the beam out of our own eye, that's how Jesus put it.
07:10 And the biggest problem about self is recognizing it.
07:14 Once we have recognize, we've got one
07:16 and hopefully by now, you know,
07:18 you have then choosing to do something about it,
07:21 it comes after. But, we can't do a thing
07:23 about it till we recognize and acknowledge we have one.
07:26 We touched on Matthew 26:39 there in the program
07:31 that we're now reviewing.
07:34 Program 22, "Me, Myself and I",
07:37 and we looked at Jesus when He was in
07:40 the Garden of Gethsemane and the cross
07:43 and that sacrifice that huge sacrifice that we as mortals
07:48 can barely even comprehend.
07:50 When all of that separation from his Father,
07:53 it all came up before Him.
07:55 Jesus found Himself saying, oh! My Father,
07:59 if it is possible, let this cup pass from me.
08:04 It was too horrible. It was too big.
08:06 It was too dark.
08:08 And Jesus three times, He is saying to His Father.
08:11 Father essentially He is saying in our language.
08:15 I don't know if I can go through with this.
08:17 It looks horrible. But, here is the key to victory.
08:22 He surrendered that.
08:24 He surrendered His own desires.
08:26 In the very next part of the verse.
08:28 It says, "Nevertheless not My will but your will be done."
08:33 And He is talking to His Father in prayer.
08:36 So how do we overcome self?
08:38 It's a choice, it's a choice that only we can make,
08:42 nobody on planet earth can make the choice for us.
08:45 It's only us empowered by God
08:48 and we say not my will but your will be done.
08:52 Here is the classic. You're in the restaurant
08:55 and your children end up playing up.
08:58 You know, they say it in a big loud voice.
09:01 We don't like the food, we don't like this restaurant.
09:04 They refuse to eat the food.
09:05 And finally you think okay, time to get out of here.
09:08 The children have spoiled the meal and so you get out
09:12 and you kind of drag the kids with you and you leave,
09:16 you're back in the car.
09:18 Now self wants to be known. It wants to be hurt.
09:22 It wants to let the children know that was,
09:25 you've ruined my meal.
09:27 And self is boiling up, how do we deal with that?
09:30 It's not my will but thy will be done.
09:33 And so you bow your head and you say oh God
09:36 I'm gonna vent on the children,
09:37 if you don't come into my heart right now.
09:40 And this can happen, this kind of pray can happen
09:42 in a split second.
09:43 And you can say children, your parents
09:46 are not very pleased with how you behave
09:48 in the restaurant there.
09:50 And when we get home, we gonna need to talk about this.
09:52 And just leave it there.
09:53 The emotions are way too high when you get in the vehicle
09:56 to start trying to fix it all.
09:58 And then it gives you chance on the drive to home
10:00 to think about it and try and get to a solution.
10:03 We've covered a lot of those things in previous programs.
10:06 We're on 25 here, so with our 25 programs behind this.
10:10 So Carolyn anything else on self
10:12 or should we move onto the next program.
10:14 Well, as we said don't try and fix your children self,
10:16 you've taken care of yours.
10:17 You know, our children are little mirrors running around.
10:20 And what they, what we see in them
10:22 guess where it came from?
10:25 It came from us and itself that we passed onto them.
10:28 So don't try and fix until you're working
10:30 on your own heart.
10:31 And then in humility because that's what it's gonna take.
10:35 We got to be humble,
10:36 we got go to our family members and say I'm sorry
10:39 I shouldn't have done whatever it was.
10:41 That was, you know, just me and I'm sorry.
10:43 Because otherwise, you know,
10:45 family is a miserable place to be
10:46 when there is a whole bunch of self's
10:48 and somehow it seems like we can just have a strong will
10:51 about all kind of things.
10:53 And when all four, five, six of us feel that way,
10:55 family can be a war zone.
10:57 Yeah, it's just misery,
10:59 just a bunch of independent at risk.
11:01 That's right. Until we begin to deal
11:03 with it, then family can be a beautiful place.
11:05 It can be a peaceful place, just a happy place
11:08 just where you would rather be
11:09 than anywhere else in the world.
11:10 If it isn't that way, don't be discouraged
11:13 in despair, it can change.
11:14 Our challenge for you on the program 22
11:18 was ask God to show you
11:21 your most predominant reaction
11:25 or most obvious manifestation of self
11:28 in your life and pray about that.
11:30 So let's move onto "A Sword Fight with the Devil."
11:34 We started there with Matthew Chapter 4 and verse 4.
11:37 In fact in that program we were,
11:39 we read quite a chunk from Matthew there.
11:41 It is written, Jesus of course have been in the wilderness
11:44 for 40 days and 40 nights, hadn't eaten anything.
11:46 The devil comes to Him with what must have been an over,
11:50 almost over powering temptation.
11:52 You know, sometimes I've gone a day or two
11:54 without food and it's like oh,
11:57 you know, and we say I could,
11:58 you know, kill a good meal right now.
12:00 Jesus was at that point and He says man
12:03 when the devil came to Him, Jesus didn't, you know,
12:06 I haven't got my plastic knife.
12:07 But if you watch that program,
12:08 I had a plastic knife floating around
12:10 and that was that's often how we fight temptation.
12:14 We say I'm not gonna do it, I'm not gonna take
12:16 the food out of the refrigerator.
12:18 It's not right, I shouldn't eat it.
12:19 And we try in our own strengths and the devil
12:21 puts on the temptations and it just keeps rolling on us.
12:25 And we keep trying to resist in our own strengths
12:27 and eventually the devil wins.
12:29 That's not what Jesus did.
12:31 Jesus never failed not once in temptation.
12:34 How is that? Here it is, it says.
12:38 Jesus said to the devil, it is written
12:40 "Man shall not leave by bread alone,
12:43 "but by every word that proceeds
12:45 from the mouth of God."
12:46 What is Jesus doing here?
12:48 He is bringing into the point of temptation.
12:51 He is bringing in the word of God.
12:54 He is half praying and He is half talking to the devil.
12:57 He was talking right to the devil
12:58 in the situation in Matthew.
13:00 But He is saying, you know, even my will and my choice
13:04 isn't strong enough here for the devil.
13:06 The devil is the prince of this world.
13:07 So He is bringing in God's word, God's power.
13:11 And He says, He brings in Deuteronomy.
13:13 Its recorded in Matthew for us.
13:15 So here it is not, Jesus is saying
13:18 "Man shall not leave by bread alone".
13:20 He brought in the word of God and we need to do the same
13:22 at the point of temptation.
13:24 What, where else are we going in this sweetheart.
13:26 Well if you remember we talked about how we as the family
13:31 had spent some time when you were gone
13:32 and we were stepping into the temptation of Jesus.
13:35 Temptations of Jesus, we made that box again,
13:37 we don't have with us tonight.
13:39 But anyways a box where we would put Bible cards,
13:42 cards with verses on them.
13:43 They would help us meet specific temptation.
13:46 So if you are tempted to impatience,
13:48 you know, pick some of those beautiful verses
13:51 there in James and put them onto a card,
13:53 put them in a box where you can go pull it out,
13:56 when you're suspecting you're gonna be falling prey
13:58 to that temptation.
14:00 Whatever your temptation, bad thoughts then get
14:02 Philippians 4:8, put it on Bible card.
14:04 Memorize these verses,
14:06 so that when the temptations come,
14:08 we can whip them out like a sword from our memory
14:11 and we can fight the devil.
14:12 And he is a defeated foe, when the word of God
14:15 comes out, he runs from it.
14:17 Here is a quote from the book called,
14:19 The Desire of Ages.
14:20 And I want to share with, this with you because
14:23 it's powerful and it's very precious.
14:25 Jesus met Satan with the words of scripture.
14:30 Think about it.
14:31 Satan had... his aims are all of us.
14:35 But if there is one person who ever walked planet earth
14:38 that Satan was aiming his temptations out, it was Jesus.
14:41 And Jesus it says here.
14:45 Met Satan with the words of scripture.
14:48 It is written Jesus said, "In every temptation
14:54 the weapon of His warfare was the word of God."
14:57 How many temptations?
14:59 In every temptation, He would quote the scripture
15:02 because Jesus knew there is power in the word.
15:05 The word of God spoke worlds into existence.
15:08 He spoke this planet into existence,
15:11 so there is power in the word of God
15:13 and we need that power to come right into us
15:15 at that point of the temptation.
15:18 God's word is where it's at and we illustrated that
15:21 if you would watch this program with
15:22 the great big long sword, because that's...
15:26 When you wheel that big sword the devil,
15:29 he can take on you and I,
15:31 but he can't take on the word of God.
15:33 He's got no choice.
15:35 He didn't win the battle with Jesus in Gethsemane.
15:39 He didn't win the battle with Jesus in the wilderness.
15:41 And he won't win the battle with us,
15:43 if we use God's word at the point of temptation.
15:47 But then we went on to explain that it's not only.
15:51 I don't want you to think, okay, you're tempted,
15:54 you've been in the restaurant the children played up,
15:56 you're back in the car.
15:57 And it's like I'm gonna give the children what for now.
16:00 But okay, yeah I'm remember that program
16:03 Happy the Home on 3ABN, I'm supposed to quote
16:06 some Bible verse here, so maybe I'm gonna be...
16:11 or and you try to think of something and eventually
16:13 you come up with a text, you know,
16:17 can't think of one right now.
16:18 "Spare the rod and spoil the child."
16:20 That's not necessary to do the right one at that point.
16:24 Maybe later on, it may be.
16:26 But, you know, it's not, you can't just quote
16:28 some Bible verse and it be a lucky charm that,
16:31 oh now I feel so much better,
16:33 it's still gonna take a surrender.
16:36 It's gonna take God's word at the point of temptation
16:40 and it's gonna take a surrender of our self.
16:44 Those two combined along with an earlier program we did the
16:48 "Connection that Counts".
16:49 We are building some very powerful tools
16:51 here for a happy home.
16:54 So let's move on.
16:57 We've done about the it is written box and oh,
16:59 we were talking about, you mentioned this
17:01 a little bit about the need to memorize scripture,
17:05 so that we can pull that out on the devil right on the job,
17:09 right in the midst of temptation.
17:11 Because, because, you know,
17:12 when you are right in the thick of a temptation,
17:14 it is not the time to get your books out
17:16 and go hang on, hang on, hang on.
17:17 Well, I just find, okay, now you can tempt me
17:19 because I'm ready with my verse
17:20 or look your Bible around or even, you know,
17:23 some kind of device that has it on it.
17:25 It just doesn't work when you're being tempted to try
17:27 and scroll down and find your verse.
17:29 It's got be in our minds and in our hearts,
17:31 so that we're prepared and when the devil comes
17:34 just like Jesus was, he didn't go blown out
17:36 the scroll and say hang on, hang on,
17:38 when the devil said turn these things into bread.
17:40 He had it in his mind and his heart
17:42 and it could come out because we put it there.
17:44 And we shared the other day the example of Caleb
17:47 in Wal-Mart, you remember that.
17:49 After he had learned the Ten Commandments and,
17:51 you know, they've learned.
17:53 Learn the Ten Commandments, you mean, by memory
17:55 the whole all ten of them. By memory,
17:57 at three years of age and he learned them
17:58 all to a song and there he was in Wal-Mart,
18:01 you know, with all the kind of stuff
18:03 around him and he is singing,
18:04 "Thou shalt have no other gods before me."
18:08 And he went on by the way, I didn't stop him.
18:10 He went on to sing the entire Ten Commandments
18:13 in the cart there in Wal-Mart
18:15 because it was hidden in his heart and mind.
18:17 I remember that, he is just a little tight
18:18 with his feet dangling out of the cart.
18:22 You know, song has been a great help for me
18:25 and I think we pointed you in that program.
18:27 Yes, we did, we pointed you to
18:29 restoration -international.org.
18:33 There if you go to free downloads there is a document,
18:37 a PDF that you can download and it will give you
18:40 all kinds of resources that you can go to,
18:43 to help you memorize scripture.
18:45 The one that you were talking about
18:46 there was Thy Word Creations.
18:48 And I don't know how I at age 40
18:53 which is what I was then I manage to memorize
18:56 all kinds of scriptures.
18:58 Psalm 23, the whole of the Ten Commandments,
19:01 1 Corinthians 13, Psalm 91,
19:04 all of those things are in my mind.
19:07 If I can do it, believe me you can do it.
19:10 The tune makes a big different. It does.
19:12 And that has been helpful
19:13 at the point of temptation for me.
19:15 So let's move on to program 24 that we started
19:20 there off with a kind of a rushed morning, didn't we?
19:24 Tell us a little about that?
19:26 Well, we all played what happens in the typical home.
19:29 First thing in the morning when there is no schedule
19:31 and everything just kind of haywire.
19:33 Now that was the real play.
19:35 It was chaos, wasn't it?
19:37 I was late for work, we didn't have time for worship.
19:39 Caleb was trying to get his spelling lesson finished
19:42 and Hannah couldn't find her shoe.
19:44 And in, that program "Organizing Confusion",
19:48 the very last program we had in our True Fact.
19:51 We took that illustration apart and we fix it bit by bit
19:55 and I know if you watch that program,
19:57 the thought of a schedule is like I don't want a schedule,
20:02 I want to be free.
20:03 It kind of almost people have sometime said
20:06 this to us it's all much repulsive,
20:08 the thought of I have to have everything,
20:12 nailed down, screwed down,
20:14 I've got no wiggle room.
20:15 We never said everything, didn't we?
20:17 No, we didn't.
20:18 That's the devil that says everything.
20:20 It is the devil actually because he hates schedule,
20:23 he want us to be disorganized.
20:25 You know, to waste our time,
20:27 to not know whether we are coming or going.
20:28 As long was doing that friends we're not making
20:31 steps forward and he is happy.
20:33 He doesn't care what else we're doing.
20:34 If he get us in a mess, that's what he cares about.
20:36 In fact, the devil is the author of confusion.
20:39 Absolutely! And God is a God of order.
20:42 We talked in that program just in passing,
20:44 but what if God hadn't of thought through,
20:47 or had a schedule for creation.
20:49 Oh! Here's the animals,
20:52 but we haven't made the grass yet.
20:54 Okay, let's do that again. It wasn't like that friends.
20:56 Here is Adam, but oh, we forgot do the oxygen, okay.
21:00 There is no water for him to drink, oops.
21:01 God had a plan and the wisest man we're told
21:05 of course Jesus was the wisest man,
21:06 but that's just the phrase
21:07 that's used there in scripture.
21:09 Solomon, he tried all kinds of things in life
21:12 and he was finally the one that wrote
21:14 Ecclesiastes Chapter 3 and verse 1,
21:16 you remember what that says.
21:18 There is a time for everything.
21:20 Order, schedule! Now you appreciate schedule.
21:26 You like to be at a look online
21:28 or go to your magazine and say oh,
21:31 look it's Happy the Home on it 4 o'clock.
21:33 And then you tune in and sure enough that's what it is.
21:36 It's not, you know,
21:38 Kids Time or something that, you know,
21:39 you weren't necessary expecting,
21:42 you like schedule.
21:43 You like to be to go to the doctor's office
21:45 when you've made an appointment to be there
21:47 and know that you're gonna be seeing,
21:48 you know, give or take 30 minutes maybe.
21:50 Some doctor's offices aren't quite so on the board,
21:52 but you would be horrified to think of sitting there
21:55 three days waiting for your doctor's appointment,
21:57 wouldn't you? You wouldn't like that.
21:59 I know it was earlier this year.
22:02 No, it wasn't, it was last year
22:04 and we got struck in Amsterdam in an ash cloud
22:07 when a volcano went off.
22:09 And the schedule the board, it was just cancelled,
22:12 cancelled, cancelled,
22:13 cancelled, everything was cancelled
22:14 and we weren't at our destination yet.
22:17 And, oh! We would have loved a schedule at that point.
22:20 A schedule that would it said,
22:21 yes Paul and Carolyn,
22:22 your flights flying to Bristol in half an hour.
22:25 Great, praise the Lord for a schedule.
22:28 Schedule is needed in business,
22:31 it's need it in the stores, it's need in industry,
22:36 it's need it in airport and friends
22:38 a schedule will help so much at home.
22:41 But, you know, as Carolyn says,
22:43 we tend to think oh, I just want to be free,
22:46 free to work, free to get to bed late,
22:48 not be out to get up in the morning
22:50 and miss your time with the Lord.
22:51 You want to be free to get angry with the kids
22:53 and free not to have a shirt just ironed,
22:56 or free not be how to find your shoe,
22:57 how free is that, that's bondage,
22:59 that's not freedom.
23:00 A schedule will help all of that.
23:02 Now talk us though again some of the practicalities
23:04 of getting a schedule together.
23:06 Where would we pick that up?
23:08 Well, where you're gonna start is with those things
23:11 that are immovable, like the time
23:13 that you go to work in the morning
23:14 or your husband goes to work
23:15 or your children go to school,
23:17 those are things you can't move.
23:18 So set that out on a piece of paper first,
23:20 write that down and then start working
23:22 backwards from there to figure out
23:24 what time you need to get up in the morning.
23:26 And as we shared over this last few weeks
23:28 about a family time, about family worship,
23:31 about personal devotions.
23:32 If the Lord is really putting that on your heart,
23:35 then you can have to figure out from the time
23:37 that you've to walk out the door,
23:38 when you have to fit in breakfast and,
23:40 you know, all those different things.
23:42 And you, where it's gonna take you is
23:44 the night before as you figure out what time
23:46 you need to go to bed to be out to achieve
23:48 those things first thing in the morning.
23:50 Can I just jump in here? Oh, absolutely.
23:53 You're used to be doing that.
23:54 Of course we do it all the time,
23:55 in fact, we're giving, we give each other
23:57 the freedom on Happy the Home
23:58 to interrupt at any point.
24:00 We don't normally interrupt each other
24:01 quite so much at home, but we recognize
24:03 we only got half an hour of your precious time,
24:06 so we're really trying to roll this out.
24:08 You know, this is not rocket science
24:10 and I've said it so many times,
24:12 but I really want you to get the point,
24:13 it is so simple that we can miss it.
24:16 But if you want to be ought to get up on time
24:18 to do some of these things that we've been talking about
24:21 and get out to work at the right time.
24:23 Then it all comes back to going to bed
24:26 at reasonable hour.
24:28 Yes, miss out a few,
24:30 what you're getting for us there dear.
24:31 I'm getting the Connected Family
24:33 because this is all we're gonna need.
24:34 Okay, you know, if we don't go to bed
24:38 at a reasonable time, our bodies are just gonna
24:40 stay on that pillow as long as they possibly can
24:44 and it's not gonna happen.
24:46 The secret to a lot of the things
24:48 that we've been talking about is to get to bed
24:51 at a reasonable hour.
24:52 Deny yourself an hour of television,
24:54 deny yourself an hour of the web,
24:56 deny yourself one more social visit,
24:58 get some sleep and get on top of life.
25:01 What you're gonna tell us about the book?
25:03 Well, realizing that we would never to get to cover
25:05 everything we want to say
25:06 in these few moments about schedule.
25:08 Get hold of a copy of the Connected Family.
25:10 In there is a whole list of things for you for schedule.
25:13 How to get one going?
25:14 How to tweak it when it doesn't quite goes exactly
25:17 how you'd like it to?
25:18 Be prepared to expect, you gonna have to change
25:20 as little bit as time moves on
25:22 and then some very good reasons why a schedule
25:25 gives you the stability and the security in the home
25:28 and gives you the peace that you're looking for.
25:30 We know everybody want's a peaceful home life.
25:33 And a schedule is a large step in that direction
25:36 if you could make that choice to stop putting
25:39 a schedule into practice.
25:40 I know also in the Connected Family Book
25:43 you had, Carolyn put in there some sample schedules.
25:47 Now, we don't want you to copy those all the way down,
25:50 but it'll give you an idea of the time the things take,
25:53 but you tweak it to your family.
25:55 Anyway we're pretty much out of time.
25:57 We're gonna take a break here join us after the break
26:00 as we introduce the last program on Happy the Home,
26:04 program number 26 "Building On Success".
26:07 We will tell you a little bit more about
26:08 that in a moment, so join us.